This week, Michal, from the wonderful All Things Mom Sydney, gives her parenting wisdom and insight on In Conversation With. I applaud Michal for the strong decision she made to leave a career as a lawyer and become a Stay-at-Home Mum. It’s not an easy decision to make in the slightest and it is not an easy job to Stay at Home either. As a working mother myself, I understand “penicilling” in time with your family. I have added up the hours that I am without A, and it hurts, it simply hurts to be apart for such a long period of the day. Continue Reading for Michal’s words of wisdom on parenting.
How many children do you have?
I have two littlies – Miller who is 4 in September (he thinks he’s turning 16, thank goodness he’s not) and Rachel who just turned 18 months.
You worked as a lawyer in a previous life. What made you decide to become a Stay at Home Mom?
It really does feel like a previous life but it is something that I will go back to when the kids are older and don’t want me hovering over them.
When I was working I had very little time for my son and one afternoon when I found myself ‘pencilling’ him into my diary for 2 hours so that I could carry on working late into the night I knew that my love affair with work needed to stop if I was to have any meaningful relationship with him.
You are also a full time blogger (is there such a thing as a part time blogger!) What are the most challenging aspects of managing your blog life and your family and how do you overcome them?
I did not know how time consuming blogging was until I started. I’m not sure what I thought it was but I find myself wondering how great bloggers manage to get it so right.
I don’t think I’ve worked out the time management thing yet but blogging has become my ‘me’ time so when the kids are asleep and the husband has been fed then I quickly sit down at the computer. I love writing and have always written whether for school or as a lawyer for legal publications and I talk a whole lot so thankfully it flows easily and I find it cathartic.
I have a brother who also lives in Sydney. The distance can be hard as we’re all the way over in Ireland. I hear that you have family all around the world. Do you have a close family connection? And how do you manage to keep the family bond strong with the long distance?
I have one sister in Melbourne, another sister in America, a brother in London and my parents are in South Africa so ja (South African term for ‘yes’) we are all scattered about.
We are an extremely close family who talk all the time so it has been hard being so far away but there is a family group WhatsApp that is constantly going and we FaceTime a couple of times a week. We also try do Christmas together.
What is the best part of your day as a Mom?
Would it be wrong to say when the kids are peacefully sleeping 🙂
There is a special time every night when the kids are lying in bed listening to my husband read to them and sometimes I peek through the door at them – that moment makes my heart melt.
Do you think its easier being a parent now than when you were being raised?
No. Never! Life is so fast now and everything is ‘on demand’ which means that the kids are accustomed to having their needs met immediately, we have to struggle to keep our children calm and patient and grounded. We constantly have to re-inforce the fact that they can’t have everything and they can’t have it now, even if they say please and thank you.
Additionally and maybe worse of all social media exposes you to so many other people to compare yourself to and when you do step out and say or do something there are more critics that there ever were before.
What is your biggest fear as a Mom?
My kids not feeling safe or loved.
What is the one thing you would have done differently as a new Mom?
I would have stopped asking my son to do things and rather tell him to do it. My management style when I was working was always to ask people to help me with something as opposed to demanding they do it and I took that into parenting with me. The problem now is that my son legitimately thinks I’m asking him to do something and he is entitled to say no.
If you could share one piece of advice to other soon-to- be-Moms, what would it be?
Even your hardest most challenging day is only going to be 24 hours long and when its over its over and you can start afresh tomorrow.
Thank you so much to Michal for joining me on In Conversation With. Michal can be found at her blog All Things Mom Sydney, on facebook, twitter and instagram. Don’t forget to follow her blog and say hi to her if you’re on social media.
I was really interested to read Michal’s post Immigrating. Part 1: Deciding to leave South Africa and am even more interested to read her upcoming post Australia – the Attraction since my brother moved to Sydney some years ago.
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