Ahhh the Daddy Tag Challenge! I’ve yet to be nominated for the Mummy Tag Challenge – I’m clearly clamboring for a nomination here! – so I decided to jump on the bandwagon and nominate Papa Bear for #TheDaddyTag! A clever challenge issued by the very wonderful Frenchie Mummy. I was tempted to do as Frenchie said and make the answers up for B but he was very happy to oblige and take part. Check out his answers to the Daddy Tag Challenge. Of course I couldn’t help but add my own little tid-bit too!
Are you a Stay at Home Daddy or a Working Daddy?
Working. The glamour of architectural hardware sales keeps me grounded.
B is ridiculously good at his job and has worked with the same company for 16 years.
Would you have it any other way?
Yes, for sure. But picking six correct numbers is very, very hard. If I could, I would spend all the time I have with A. Although, let’s be reasonable, little things like sleep get in the way.
Working full time with a young, impressionable and ever changing toddler has serious downsides. Missing those changes is heartbreaking. B is an incredible Dad and he misses those moments just as I do.
Do you co-change dirty nappies? Even the very smelly ones!
Yep. One thing I miss oddly. The last nappy felt like the first step away from A needing us as much and gaining independence.
B changed just as many dirty nappies as I did. He did just as many night feeds and does more than his fair share of night wakings. Have I said how awesome he is?
A little fairy gives you the possibility of breastfeeding? Are you going for it or do you run away?
Run away. I am kinda hairy and the chaffage would kill me. I can be a little O.C.D. as well and would hate one nipple to be favoured in case the other got upset.
Hah! Hairy OCD 🙂 he’s my cuddly bear 🙂
What is the one must-have item for a daddy?
A good bag. One that fits food, clothes, nappies, toys etc. It will be your go to for so many situations. Also, as a nonphysical item, I would say patience. Remember ,it might take ages to do something you could do in two minutes, tantrums can be annoying and tedious but a toddler is only learning. They can get frustrated but can’t express it like you or me.
Hmm wise words Papa Bear, I agree.
How many kids do you plan on having?
I’m not sure but I’ll be honest, a house full scares me, so it’s possible I’ll end up running with scissors minus a cup.
A house full!? Eck pass me the scissors!!
Lads’ nights? How often do you have them?
Never. I don’t drink and hate all that to be honest. I am a gamer and a night out for me involves busting heads in Tokyo online.
B has been a gamer since I met him and I love it! He plays games that aren’t as main stream as the norm like Japanese RPGs and Hack and Slash games – although he is partial to FIFA and starting as the underdog.
Your children’s favourite achievement?
Hard one this: Either dancing and reciting the lines to “Doll on a music box” from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang or making pizza with us.
Pizza has become a weekly tradition now it seems. The clean up takes longer than anything else but A has gotten pretty good with that roller.
What is your best memory with your kid(s)?
So many! It’s hard to pick. It’s small things like getting ice cream with her or having her run towards me in a park. But I used to love in the depths of winter, when it was dark and silent, A was a small baby and would fall asleep in my arms. It was a lovely calm silence, just me and her. She was so comfortable and I would watch her breathe, her little chest rising up and down. It is something that I will never forget.
*** Heart Melt ***
Name one thing you miss since being a daddy?
Sitting down to read a magazine while having a lazy Saturday, Soccer Saturday on in the background… Unbelievable Jeff!
I miss those those days too. I used to nap to Jeff Stellings voice. Although, I often wonder what we did all day long!
Weight gain, before pregnancy, during, after and now? And we mean YOU DADDY, not the mummy!
Ummm – a little after I think. I was all over the place after A was born – happy, upset, happy, upset – my emotions were hay wire! Through all of that and severe exhausation, I guess I comfort ate a lot in those first months. Ben and Jerry are no longer allowed to randomly show up without calling ahead first!
Oh thanks for reminding me – *** scrawls Phish Food on the shopping list ***
Dream holiday with your kids?
A big shopping trip to Berlin during the Christmas season. Wandering around the Christmas Markets in the snow with a hot chocolate in our hands. Spending hours in KaDeWe Department Store, finding our way to AlexanderPlatz and spending way more money than we have!
Oh yes please! That will most definitely happen one day and I can’t wait too!
Dream holiday without your kids or even without the other half? (You’re allowed to dream)
Trip in Japan to experience Japanese sub culture, heritage, history and of course games. I will probably need a genie teach me the language – Can be any mystic creature I am not endorsing Genie’s. Geraldine is more than welcome to join me but no lists. I would own this trip.
Fair enough. I do like to make lists when we go on holiday so that we make the most of our days. Thanks for the invite B!
How has your life changed since having kids?
I guess married and work life have changed quite a lot. Sometimes, it feels like being underwater and like a weird fake existence. You have to let go of the old way and embrace the new one. It’s harder to have time for your relationship as young kids take up so much time and energy.
Finish the sentence “It makes my heart melt when…”
I look at photos of my daughter and see how much older she has gotten. It is bittersweet though. She was so small and happy and although her world is tiny she is happy. But we have to let her grow and you can’t bubble wrap them forever even though you really want to.
Favourite beers brands and football team?
No beer – I don’t drink. I’m an Assam tea man, with Mocha coffee and Cola Cola thrown in for good measure.
West Ham Utd
B makes a mean cup of tea!
Huggies or Pampers?
Never even thought to try anything else to be honest.
Have you always wanted kids?
No. I was dead set against them for years and one day, Boom, it hit me in a shopping centre. That was it, there was no changing my mind. That day I saw a mother calling to her son from about five feet away. She was gesturing for his hand but he was looking behind him and walking at a snails pace with tiny steps. “Come on,” she said. No answer. “We have to hurry,” she said. No answer. Finally she said to him, “We have to get Daddy his Christmas present,” and he ran towards her so happy at the prospect. It was then that I knew I wanted that in my life. This year A will be old enough to shop with me for Geraldine present. I’m looking forward to doing that together.
And we’re so thankful that you saw that mother and her son. Isn’t it incredible how something so small can have such a huge influence on your life.
Best part of being a dad?
Just seeing her in the morning come into our room to give us a huge cuddle. simple moments like that remind me that I was right that day in the shopping centre – even if I did forget the bread.
I think we can forgive forgetting the bread.
On to the nominations:
- I nominate the wonderful Laura and Mark from 2 Travelling Tots
- Stef’s other half from Blabbermama
- Lynne’s other half from New Mummy Blog
Of course there are rules to the #TheDaddyTag. Check out how to participate here
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