This week on In Conversation With, I feature Fee who writes a parenting blog at Not Just Another Mum
. I love Fee’s honesty both here on this interview and on her blog. And she’s right, one of the best things about being a parent is the toys! I’ve spent evenings brushing dolls hairs and fixing up outfits, willing A to sit down beside me and play! Aside from that, Fee has some great advise for new parents. Advice even more seasoned parents can take on board. Read her interview here and be sure to check out Fee’s blog when you’re done.
How many children do you have?
I have 2 children, a son who has just turned 9 and a daughter who is almost 15 (how did she get so big?) We have been trying for a third for many years but unsuccessfully.
Are you a Working Mum, Stay-at-Home Mum or Work-from-Home Mum?
I was a working Mum until I had my second child then I was a stay at home Mum. I just couldn’t go back. I had a mini meltdown on the morning I was due to go back to work, when I was having my son he was a twin but I miscarried the other baby. It made me really clingy and very overprotective of him so I just didn’t feel like I could leave him. Plus I was still breastfeeding and the little guy point blank refused bottles since the day he was born which was a worry too. The Mr said I wasn’t going back (he knew I didn’t want to) and not to worry about money, we would mange and we did. Now I work form home during school hours. Which is really helpful in the holidays not having to sort out childcare etc. We actually both work from home which means if the weather is nice or whatever we can just go off and do something.
You own the blog Not Just Another Mum. How do you manage your blogging life and your family life?
Easy. I’m a lazy blogger. I blog very sporadically which is a big NO NO in the blogging world. I have very few regular readers because of this but I’m not to bothered. I work on websites all day so often blogging is the last thing I want to do in my spare time. I just do it when the mood takes me – usually when I need to vent. Also my nine year old has his own blog so I seem to spend a lot of time helping him out with that.
What is the best part about being a Mum?
Seriously, I love that I get to play with toys, which is often frowned upon for adults. I’m supposed to say, watching them grow everyday into individual, the overwhelming sense of pride and love you have for them – which are both true – but that’s just boring.
What is your biggest fear as a Mum?
Letting them down/them becoming ill/what will happen to them if I die…I could go on and into much greater detail but that would be quite bleak.
Do you think it’s easier being a parent now than when you were being raised?
No. I think there’s much more pressure on us now to do it ‘the right way’ whereas when I was growing up it seemed like people raised their kids how they wanted and nobody batted an eyelid. Plus, I think, as a generation, we are a lot more protective over our kids and don’t give them as much freedom as we may have had when younger, which itself causes friction within the family.
What is the one thing you would have done differently as a new Mum?
Ignore people’s silly advice. I was only just 21 when I became a Mum and to be honest hadn’t the first idea what I was doing. There was never a shortage of people telling me I should be doing this or shouldn’t be doing that. They had a knack for making me feel really crap!
What advice would you give other women about pregnancy and parenting?
Trust your instincts.
Your child isn’t supposed to be like all the others.
It’s OK not to be gloriously happy all the time.
Enjoy it while you can – it really does go so quickly.
Oh and don’t get in the car straight after breakfast if your kid is travel sick. You can thank me later 🙂
What is your favourite way to relax when the kids are in bed and sound asleep?
Ha. That’s a cheeky question. As if.
My children are older now so they have later bedtimes, relaxing is usually me trying to stay awake and watch some telly! We are quite lucky to have good reliable family members for fairly regular babysitting. We like to go out. I find gigs relaxing, almost like coming home. I love getting crushed to death by a bunch of strangers. If you don’t come away from a rock/punk gig with a few bruises you’re not doing it right. I find it quite cathartic in a strange way.
Thank you so much to Fee for taking the time to share her thoughts with us. Fee can be found at her blog, Not Just Another Mum
, and on Twitter
. I really do suggest you check out her blog. The wonderful stories she has and the well thought out opinion pieces, I highly recommend her as blogger to follow.
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