2016 was an emotionally mixed year for me and for my family. I’ll be honest, I’ll be glad to see the back of it. I’m looking forward to 2017, hoping it brings us a year of good fortune without the unhelpful worries and stress this year has brought us. At a time when we should have been excited and happy to start our first year in our forever home, we struggled with daily life and issues beyond our control. But lessons were learned, important lessons, which will see us through next year and beyond in a more positive light.
2016 has primarily been about getting my family back on track after the last few years. 2013 A was born. 2014 was a year of deep depression I’d rather forget. 2015 was a year of uphill struggle with a determined focus on what we wanted for our family. 2016 was a year of settling our issues and balancing our lives.
2017 will be the year we are full and complete and truly living.
This year has been about this lot – My Husband, B, who I adore with all my heart. I wish I could take away all of his stress and worry. Our daughter A who, in her three short years, has contended with so much upheavel and unnecessary running around. She has been our northern star and guided us to where we are now – home. And Little Bean. Our newborn baby come May next year, who will complete our little family. Keeping Little Bean and A safe is our number one priority.
Tiny Little Bean Bump at 15 weeks
B and I struggled initially with our move to the countryside and fought hard to find a balance on life. We thought, buying our forever home would be the solution to a lot of our problems, but of course, everything has it’s own little issues and niggles. We were getting home so late in the evenings after work due to traffic and had very little quality family time in the evenings with A. This escalated into parental guilt of how long our toddlers day was, away from home, away from her parents, to be rushed quickly to bed after dinner.
Things changed when we found a new route home, which we desperately needed. It cut our commute time down by twenty minutes and turned out to be a very relaxing and worthwhile country drive too. I also started a four day working week which suited everyone. Having that extra day with A is a bonus for me, but also means that B has a stress free Friday with little rushing to and from work. A win for us all.
We learnt how to maximise our time and enjoy being a family.
Money Comes, Money Goes
We struggled with an excessively high credit card bill which spiralled as we sorted out issues in our new home. Thankfully, we have just about got this under control and should have the card cleared by the New Year but it added an unnecessary pressure on us, throughout the whole year, which we didn’t need. It was also a position we had never been in before so was new territory for us to say we were in debt!
I hope to never be in that position again with the credit card, but that, of course, depends on me being a bit more diligent on how the card is used… in other words not used! I’ll admit my spending was slightly out of control as I aimed to make our forever home really ours. I’m happy to say that yes, it truly does feel like our home now. I have a plan for the New Year to have a contingency budget for frustrating things that pop up throughout the year.
Love Shown, Always Grows
A number of our family members went through physical and emotional health issues this year which is difficult to deal with since there’s very little you can do to change the situation. Thankfully, all is well and we look forward to 2017 with positivity and good health.
In February of this year, B and I decided to have another baby knowing that we would start trying in September. Luckily, we got pregnant straight away and it was so exciting telling our closest family the news. I can’t keep a secret so most of our family knew early on. Every baby is a blessing and I love having my family along for the journey from the very beginning.
Of course, you’re probably aware, that our happy announcement on Over Heaven’s Hill, was tainted by a large worry that has loomed over us until last week. I suffered a Subchorionic Haematoma, a bleed, which I instantly thought was a miscarriage when it happened. Luckily, the bleed was not threatening to the baby and a scan last week revealed the SH is smaller and shouldn’t affect the baby at this stage. I’m almost 18 weeks now and due at the end of May. Just five more months to go!
Here’s to 2017
I’m hoping 2017 brings a lot more positivity, calmer influences and happier thoughts as the months roll in. While 2016 hasn’t been the best year in terms of stress, it’s been an exciting year. I started Over Heaven’s Hill, which has been one of the most satisfying things I’ve ever done in my life. It’s brought me closer to my writing, and a part of myself I thought had disappeared a long time ago. I’ve been published in national magazines, I’ve won a national award for my writing skills and I have you, my readers, my wonderful beautiful and supportive readers. Over Heaven’s Hill has afforded me opportunities I never thought I’d see and it’s one thing I want to progress further in the New Year. I have absolutely loved sharing my life, my thoughts, my worries, my fears and my hopes and dreams with you.
As I say, I’m still becoming the new me through parenting and I have loved having you all join me on this journey.
How was your 2016?