Never underestimate the impact you have on those around you, whether good or bad. Believe it or not but a small gesture you may have made years before can have lasting implications on someone else’s mind, soul and life. Thank you for influencing my life
This is a photo of my daughter, then aged 9 months old, holding and loving the images of Calvin and Hobbes. When I was perhaps ten, a good friend unknowingly started a love for Calvin and Hobbes in me with a Christmas gift of a C&H collection. Throughout my life I would pick up any collections I saw and I believe I now own them all. I think of my friend when I see these books lazily sitting on the shelves as they gather dust because I haven’t re-read them for the 89th time in quite a while. I wonder when my daughter will pick them up and enjoy the wonderfully sarcastic humour and the heartfelt moments between a boy and his stuffed tiger.
This friend doesn’t know I own all of Calvin and Hobbes because of him.
After losing touch and missing out on so many years together, we attended the funeral of that friend, last November. My heart broke. This was a man who was taken far too young from his beautiful family being only in his early forties. A cherished, hardworking man, a loving and caring husband and a hands on and devoted father.
Even though I only knew this friend from childhood to early teens, he had a much bigger impact on my life than I realised until he was gone. From small incidences to longer lasting thoughts and traits which he instilled in me.
Unknown to me, over the years, this friend encouraged me with writing, journalism and literature. As a writer himself, he influenced me to enter poetry competitions, share my short stories and study English at college. He encouraged me to keep clicking at the keys and write from the heart. He knew I was a writer from an early age and silently cheered me on.
And there were small impacts too like, B buying a Sandman comic book from this friend years ago at a comic expo which then started a love in B for collecting comics and memorabilia. And it was at this friends 30th birthday party that B first got to know my family properly.
I never got to thank him for the impact he had on my life and that of my family. I am heartbroken for the years we lost but thankful for the memories we have. I am one in a sea of people who loved this man, cherished and respected him.
I will never forget you and I will always remember the way you influenced my life. Thank you my friend.