I am so excited to talk to Lucy this week who is a Stay-at-Home Mum and a fantastic blogger. In fact, Lucy has given me some tips on how to organise my own blogging life. It’s not easy being a Stay-at-Home Mum as she points out, but her list of positives out weigh any negatives there might be, and I just love the list! Lucy shares her thoughts with us on family life, being a mum and managing to find that all elusive balance between finding time to work on her blog and care for her kids. Remember to check out Lucy’s blog and say hi to her on twitter!
How many children do you have?
I have 2 little girls.
Jenny is 5 and she’s the bossy one in the family, although if you speak to my mother, she’ll tell you she’s just like I was as a child (I was nicknamed ‘Angelica’ after the Rugrats character!) She’s a real stickler for the rules but has a heart of gold.
Charis is 1 and she’s my curly-haired pocket rocket! She’s the one who will ignore the rules completely (much to Jenny’s dismay!) and is usually covered in muck of some description. She is also the more affectionate one.
You own the blog Lucy at Home. How do you manage your blogging life and your family life?
I have only been blogging for three months so I am still a newbie. When I first pressed the publish button on 24th April 2016, I had no idea how much my life would change. The plan was just to have a place that I could exercise my brain a bit and be ‘me’ (two things that take a bit of a back seat when you’re a Stay At Home Mummy).
But it has become so much more than that now – I am connecting with so many lovely people, I am growing in confidence, I am having fun.
But along with that, it is taking up a lot more time than I had ever imagined so these are things I do to try and keep on top of it all:
• I like to have at least 4 blog posts ‘in the bank’ at a time. I post twice a week so a 4-post buffer means, if I hit a busy patch in the ‘real’ world, my blog will still keep running by itself for two weeks.
• Jenny is in full-time school so most of the time, it’s just Charis and I at home. I work on my blog when Charis is having her afternoon nap, or once the girls have gone to bed.
• Most linkies seem to start in the morning so I add my links as soon as I wake up. This means I’m near the top of the list so I get more exposure. Then I do all the commenting and tweeting for them once Charis is having her afternoon nap
What is the best part about being a Stay-at-Home Mum?
Oh my goodness, how long have you got?!
I love that I am there for all of their ‘firsts’. I love that I know their favourite foods. I love that I can translate my one year old’s words for her. I love that we can read together. I love that I’m their favourite playmate. I love that we have the flexibility to work hard or chill out. I love that they help me with the chores (being the ‘peg lady’ is a coveted position in our house!). I love that I am there for them when they’re upset or hurt. I love that I know all the games they like to play. I love that I have the time to give them my undivided attention. I love that I know all the characters and plots of their favourite TV programmes. I love that I can bring them up with the values and morals that are important to me. I love that I am with them every single day.
What are the biggest challenges of being a Stay-at-Home blogger Mum and how do you overcome them?
It is very lonely being a Stay At Home Mummy. Obviously the kids are around for company, but it’s quite one-sided when it comes to who chooses the topic of conversation!
I think the answer is getting stuck into whatever’s going on in your community. I joined our local baby and toddler group only to find out it was due to close in 6 weeks. So I volunteered and suddenly found myself the Chairman of the group! It’s been a busy few months getting the group back on its feet, but there’s nothing like a few silly fundraising events to bring you closer to the people around you!
Do you think it’s easier being a parent now than when you were being raised?
I think it’s very different.
Social media is a real game-changer when it comes to parenting because you’re under constant pressure to be a perfect family. Before, you only had to be on your best behaviour when you met up with other people! Now, you have to constantly update your Facebook and Instagram accounts with photos of your nutritious, homecooked meals, the education-enhancing activities you’ve created for your kids, and the extravagant far-flung holidays you’ve taken them on.
What is your favourite way to relax when the kids are in bed and sound asleep?
The hubby and I spend pretty much every evening together. He’s my best friend and we love just watching TV together. Some of our favourites are MasterChef, Great British Bake Off, The Apprentice, and Gareth Malone.
We used to enjoy playing tennis together but that’s not so easy with 2 kids in tow. But one of the most romantic things I could possibly imagine was when Hubby secretly set up a Table Tennis table in our neighbour’s lounge so that on my birthday (just 5 weeks after Charis was born), we could go ‘out’ and play Table Tennis while the neighbour babysat and I would only be a few metres away from my baby.
I also play the piano and write songs. I wrote my first song when I was about 8 years old. It was about my grandma and went something along the lines of
“Her brain is tired.
She spells things wrong.
She’s always knitting.
And that’s my song.”
I like to think I’ve improved a bit since then, but who knows?! I became a Christian when I was 9 and most of my songs since then have focused on God’s deep love for me, despite my failings. As a family, we go to church every week and are heavily involved in the music team and youth work.
You can find Lucy at her blog Lucy at Home
If you’re on twitter say hello to Lucy @lucy_at_home
Some of my favourite posts from Lucy include:
20 Parenting Life Hacks – who doesn’t need postslike this! B take note of the pillowcase as a cape! Why didn’t we ever think of this?
Grandparents: Stop the Free Daycare – this post definitely spoke to me. My parents are retired but consistently, and rightly so, say that they have reared their kids and are done. They help out whenever my sister or I are stuck but they are not there for consistent daycare. A is cared for by B’s aunt, which is pretty much the same thing and I often feel horrendous that we may be taking advantage of her.
How Giving Birth ACCIDENTALLY Empowered Me – this is a great pos
t from Lucy. A birth plan which doesn’t go to plan. The birth empowered Lucy but this post is sure to empower other women who face fear of childbirth.
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