Do You Wear Your Wedding Ring?

There has been a long running debate in our society about whether it’s acceptable to forgo wearing your wedding ring. Whether it’s one of those traditions that no longer holds the same sense of purpose, or if the importance of what a wedding ring means has lost its initial recognition. There are plenty of men and women who no longer see the necessity of flashing a ring on their wedding finger. But why? Why has it become a thing to not wear a ring after your wedding day? And why does it kill me if my husband ever accidentally, and it always is accidentally, forgets to wear his ring?
Do you wear your wedding ring

Do you wear your wedding ring everyday? Do you forget it on occasion as you run out the door with two kids and a shopping list as long as your arm? Is it a prerequisite for you to show the world that you’re married? To each their own I say. For me, my wedding ring is as important as wearing shoes when I head out our front door.

In the ten years we’ve been married, I have forgotten my wedding rings twice. B on the other hand, has run out the door, blind to the glare I leave behind him as I realise he has forgotten his ring and he fails to notice the blank spot on his finger. To this day, for some reason, it actually bothers me that B is not overly concerned with the fact that his ring has been left at home as he goes to work for a full day, or hops off to the barbers and a bit of shopping on a Saturday morning. The main reason being that, as old-fashioned as this is going to make me sound, when he’s at work or out and about without his ring and, almost more importantly, minus his wife clutching his hand, I believe the world is watching and targets him as a man available about town.

Now, I know that the lack of or even the visible proof of a ring has no consequence on our marriage or on how much B loves me and is devoted me. It is a simple quickening of the heart that his ring has been forgotten and that looped hold I have on him has slipped. When he forgets his ring, has he forgotten me or that he’s married? What a stupid question I hear you say, but it’s something that pops into my head momentarily as I see his ring sitting in front of me without its owner.

I’m not saying that the ring I gave him on our wedding day ten years, is a lock and key and protects me from him straying or anyone ignoring the ring and attempting to manoeuver him away from him. Perhaps, and this is more than likely due to me being an avid ring wearer, it’s because, I wear my ring as a symbol of pride. Proud to say I’m married. My wedding rings are not meant as a deterrent to others. I don’t wear them as a way to say Back off pal. I’m taken. But more to show the world that I’m dedicated and proud to be married to this one specific man who gave me this ring all those years ago.

Do you wear your wedding ring

B has gotten into the habit of taking his ring off as soon as we get home from work. He actually wears three rings, one being a metal ring with a carved image. It can be sharp and for that reason he takes it and his wedding ring off as soon as we get home to avoid hurting A. I’ve also gotten into the habit of taking my wedding rings off as soon as we get home because my engagement ring can be slightly cutting if I’m not careful. The difference is that if we were to have guests at home, I will always wear my rings again. B on the other hand does not wear his wedding ring at home regardless of visitors. Again, for me it’s a symbol to friends and family, that I’m proud to wear my rings and proud to show that I’m married to this man. And yes, there are times when I don’t wear my rings. I don’t wear them when washing dishes, washing my hands, baking, and especially playing with play doh. I don’t wear them going to bed or in the shower.

My attitude probably comes across as being fairly 1940’s but I’m not going to change. And for that matter, B is not going to change either. And again, to each their own. B doesn’t feel the pang of guilt or panic I would feel if I forgot my rings. He doesn’t feel the same necessity as I do to ensure the world knows how proud I am to be married. In saying that, I know he is proud to be married to me, but forgetting his ring on occasion does not diminish that pride for him.

Obviously not wearing your wedding ring doesn’t make you any less married. It’s the unknown and perhaps my own insecurity that strangles me when I realise B has headed out without his ring.

In the end, I’ve realised, the reason I want B to wear his ring is not so that the world knows he’s married but more that by him wearing his ring I know that he is proud to be married to me. Proud to show the world that he is my husband and no one else’s. For me, this is what the wedding ring symbolises. And that is the reason I will always wear mine.

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  1. I wear my rings pretty much all the time except in the shower or when I’m doing something messy like baking. When I take them off though I do quite often forget to put them back on. I think when I was newly married it bothered me more but now I barely think about whether they are on or off. I try to remember them though because I just like wearing them. Carl has his on all the time like it might actually be superglued to his finger, I don’t know. So I’m not sure how I’d feel if he went out without it because it’s never happened!I’d like to say it wouldn’t bother me but I think if it was a regular occurrence then it probably would xx
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    1. I wish it didn’t bother me and I know it’s my own insecurities more than anything else. If it happened a lot then I’d have more of a problem but it’s not that often. Possibly, that’s why it stings when it does happen. Thanks so much for reading

  2. I have the odd time forgotten my ring when rushing out the door and I feel it missing before I see it missing. I don’t mind if my husband forgets the odd time, especially as I’ve done it myself, but it does feel off. It’s not a pride thing or acting as a barrier to others, more that it’s a connection to my husband when I’m not with him. I find myself playing with it when I think of him. So it’s that physical reminder of him. I know people that don’t wear them at all, but they’re a happy couple with no issues. They have their own bound and tie I suppose. Each to their own. I do like having mine on 🙂

    Honestly Aine

  3. At first, I wore my rings all the time. I thought I would never take them off! Now, I really only wear them on special occasions or while traveling. I work with kids, and am too afraid of damaging my engagement ring, so I leave it at home. I do think of wedding rings as a symbol of our commitment to each other, but we are not any less married if we don’t always wear the rings.

  4. I wear my rings every day. On the couple of occassions that I’ve forgotten to put them on in the morning I found myself rubbing my ring finger looking for that familiar and comfortable feeling my rings bring me.
    My hubby on the other hand hasn’t worn his ring in over a year. Not because he doesn’t want to but bc his wedding band broke in the most insane way. We just haven’t been able to get him a replacement. Even before he broke his ring though he didnt wear it often because he does a lot of work with his hands.
    It’s just another way men and women vary in their wsy of thinking I guess. 😕

    1. That’s very true, we are all very different, and what is important to one may not be to another. As I say, to each their own. It’s a shame it bothers me so much I’ll be honest. At least it doesn’t happen very often.

  5. I never take my ring off (unless I’m working with gooey dough or something). I wear it for me. My husband and I didn’t see each other’s wedding rings before our wedding day. It was sort of a fun surprise and he picked the perfect ring for me. I love my ring and what it stands for. He lost his ring, however, before we were even married a year! He forgot to take it off when we went kayaking in a cold river, and his finger shrunk and it slipped off. He’s had 2 replacements (One he bought, and one I surprised him with). He wears that one I bought all the time now (as far as I know – ha ha).

    1. oh no I’d hate to lose a wedding ring. I remember my dad lost his in the sea years ago and was without one for a while. But he replaced it. My parents are like me and would never be without their ring either. Maybe that’s where I get my feelings from. I see their importance in it, so it was passed on to me.

  6. I wear my wedding ring, but not my engagement ring – a beautiful but highly impractical post child natural pearl antique dress ring. My partner dives and lost it for a year when he ‘hid’ it on a trip to the Maldives. It did come home with us, and he only found it a year later when he went to throw out the hotel laundry bag he’d used to pack some things in…we did discuss whether to bother replacing it when we thought it was gone for good….#KALCOLS

  7. I don’t care either way. I like seeing my wife wearing hers but she couldn’t after her accident or when she was pregnant. I don’t wear mine sometimes because it gives me eczema sometimes. I tend to sleep in though, so I’ve never forgotten to put it on. I’m not a big one for material symbols of who I am and how I feel. I have an unflinching certainty that my wife loves me. A ring just shines in the light and catches my eye and reminds me of it. #kcacols

  8. I’m not married but I am engaged and I must admit from the moment I put it on I felt really fussy to have it. I touch it several times a day and take it off to sleep in. It’s one of my most prized possessions and I think my wedding ring will be the same.

    I once got up late and didn’t wear it on the school run and all the way there and back my finger felt really weird!

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  9. An interesting post! I don’t wear mine everyday – I tend to put my jewellery on for ‘occasions’ – plus I’ve just had them re-dipped so want to keep them nice! Misery Guts wears his wedding ring everyday and says he feels bare without it. I’ve never given much thought to it all! #KCACOLS
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    1. I’ve been saying for years that I’ll get mine redipped but still havent done it. I do like to clean them up when we’re going out (very rare these days haha) so that they’re nice and shiny and clean

  10. My dad never had a wedding ring (maybe he did for the day but has never worn it?) and that was completely normal, so I didn’t assume my husband would want a ring and wouldn’t have minded either way if he did. As it is, we both wear ours every day. I’ve removed mine once when painting with gloss, and I insisted we remove them when we went in hot springs that has silica in the water as it damages the metal, and I felt naked without them!

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  11. It is strange isn’t it. My now ex made it quite clear to me that he would never wear his wedding ring and therefore argued that we shouldn’t even bother buying them. We had different opinions here – it is probably a good thing that we never made it to our wedding.

    I am now a single mum. When I see an attractive man on the train I will probably try to see whether he has a ring on his finger. This is just curiosity. I am well aware that many married men do not wear them. I don’t take this as a sign that they are happy to stray. I have no interest in getting involved with a married man – my life is complicated enough! I want any prospective partner to be honest and upfront from the first minute.
    You should rest assured though that a) not wearing his ring doesn’t mean he’ll stray b) just because he isn’t wearing his ring doesn’t mean single women will approach him – I have never approached a man I don’t know, ring or no ring c) just because he’s not wearing his ring doesn’t mean he isn’t absolutely devoted to you.

    I do understand how you feel though. If I were married I would want both of us to wear our rings all of the time.

    Thanks for the post

    Pen x #KCACOLS
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  12. Nope neither of us wear our rings! We will be married 5 years this year and together 15.
    I don’t find rings comfortable at all and neither of us can wear them when we are working because of our jobs so ours are in their boxes on our bedside table. It doesn’t bother me at all, we get them out for special occasions

  13. This is very interesting! In our house, my husband is the one that always wears his ring and teases me all the time for forgetting mine. I take them off all the time with our baby and just forget to put them back on. It’s something I’m trying to make more of an effort to remember as I love my rings! #KCACOLS

  14. I always wear my wedding ring. If I forget mine, it doesn’t matter how far I’ve gone I will always go back to get it. I hate when my husband forgets his wedding ring, but it’s only been a few times he’s forgot to be honest. #KCACOLS

  15. I’m 100% with you. I’m not married yet but my partner has already says he doesn’t want to wear a ring and i bloody hate it. I actually said “I won’t marry you if you don’t wear one”. I can’t really put my finger on it (excuse the pun) as to why but I don’t think it’s right not to wear one. He jokes and says it would make him more attractive to other women if he wore one!! What a plonker!! #KCACOLS

  16. im so 100% with you on this. i wear my ring because i’m proud to be married to my hubby and i want the world to know that. I’d be upset if he didnt wear his ring. i only really take mine off if im decorating or dying my hair! and recently in bed but that’s only because i feel like i have fat fingers at the mo :/
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday!

  17. I think the only time I ever take my rings off is when I’m dying my hair! My husband wears his all the time too, although he takes it off now and then as it’s a bit loose on him. It’s strange, I do feel funny when I see him without his ring on, but I couldn’t really explain why, I suppose it just doesn’t look/feel right! x #KCACOLS
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