There are days, quite a lot of them, when I don’t feel like the adult in this Momma Bear, Baby Bear scenario. Allegra crept up to me one afternoon and wrapped her dainty arms around my legs and hugged me hard. The little mite, in her tiny years and few short feet, has grown up so much but still so desperately needs her Momma’s hugs. And I hope she always will. In that instant, as her arms squeezed me tight, I thought, dammit I needed that. I needed that hug. And I also thought, dammit I’m the Mum.
I haven’t been a very good blogger lately for a number of reasons which I suppose I can, hopefully, be forgiven for. Firstly at 33 weeks pregnant… or is it 34? I’ve lost count!.. I’m exhausted and am finding it very difficult to stay up past 10pm most nights. Hell, 10pm! I’m doing quite well there. Secondly, I’m tired of complaining, so I imagine you’re tired of listening to me complain. Considering all I could think to write about was once again my hatred of pregnancy, I’ve refrained from writing a blog post until now. Thirdly, I was on doctors orders to relax more and give the blog a back seat, so blogging once a week has pretty much been my limit. I had intended on taking a break from writing completely this week and leave you all wondering where I was until B sent me an email that triggered a ton of emotions.
2016 was an emotionally mixed year for me and for my family. I’ll be honest, I’ll be glad to see the back of it. I’m looking forward to 2017, hoping it brings us a year of good fortune without the unhelpful worries and stress this year has brought us. At a time when we should have been excited and happy to start our first year in our forever home, we struggled with daily life and issues beyond our control. But lessons were learned, important lessons, which will see us through next year and beyond in a more positive light.
We are nearing the end of the In Conversation With series, for 2016, on Over Heaven’s Hill. This weeks chat, is the penultimate in the 2016 series, with the beautiful Jaki sharing her insight into parenting. Jaki is one of those bloggers who makes you think long and hard about the topics she writes. Often her blog posts sit with me for a few days after I’ve soaked them up. Posts like Why We Shouldn’t Feel the Baby Pressure and Who Should Discipline our Children? Read on to see how Jaki finds parenting her three year old son.
This week we have an award winning blogger joining us for In Conversation With. I was very pleased to meet Lisa at the Littlewoods Ireland Blog Awards in September after having chatted with her on email and twitter over the last couple of months. And even more over the moon when she won Silver and Bronze for her amazing blog The Irish Baby Fairy. As a midwife, Lisa has an inherent and natural inside knowledge of the world of pregnancy and birth. I was delighted when Lisa wanted to feature on In Conversation With because not only is she a lovely person, and everyone should meet her, but she also has some brilliant advise.
Have you met Tasha from Cookie Crumbs yet? I love, love, love Tasha’s blog. As she says herself, her blog is the musings of a wife, mother and ever evolving creative soul. Beautiful! Her About page is worth a read alone as herself and her husband toiled with the idea of moving home, all with the best intentions for their daughter. The move was not just down the road but from New York to Iowa and that, I believe, takes a huge amount of strength and courage. Tasha writes absolutely beautifully about her family and includes some hard hitting subjects like infertility and whether to be a Working Mom or SAHM. The first post I ever read from Tasha was The Day My Daughter Said “Mommy I Miss You” I won’t tell you what it’s about, all I’ll say is, read it. Find out about Tasha’s hopes and dreams for her daughter and her fears as a Mum in our conversation.
The first thought I had when I decided to attend the Irish Blogger Agency launch on the 25th of September was Frick, I better pluck my eyebrows! This was to be one of my first blogger networking events, and there would be fashion bloggers at it. Fashion Bloggers!! I have chatted with plenty of fashion bloggers since I started Over Heaven’s Hill and they are absolutely lovely people but boy do they send me into a cold sweat. Especially, if I am going to be in a room full of them. You see, I’m not the most fashion conscious person. I am by no means fashionable, up to date or on trend. The best I can come up with, as far as the fashion stakes go, are skinny jeans – which I pray will forever be in fashion because I’m not sure I could go back to the baggy jeans days of the noughties. Let’s face it, I’m a Mommy Blogger and we’re not exactly the coolest bloggers in town. But I know, through my pregnancy, that I’d have been lost without the numerous parenting blogs I read. Those nine months and that first year of fighting through teething was hard. I struggled and barely knew what the hell I was doing as I learnt about my new life as a mum. Parent bloggers – their advice, their happy moments and their torturous hard days – said one very important thing to me, “you’re not alone.”
This week, Michal, from the wonderful All Things Mom Sydney, gives her parenting wisdom and insight on In Conversation With. I applaud Michal for the strong decision she made to leave a career as a lawyer and become a Stay-at-Home Mum. It’s not an easy decision to make in the slightest and it is not an easy job to Stay at Home either. As a working mother myself, I understand “penicilling” in time with your family. I have added up the hours that I am without A, and it hurts, it simply hurts to be apart for such a long period of the day. Continue Reading for Michal’s words of wisdom on parenting.
This week, I had the pleasure of speaking with TJ from The DADgum Blog. TJ’s honest, open and beautiful discussion about parenting had me reminiscing about those early months and the first year of A’s life. He reminded me why I blog, what I get out of blogging and how writing about parenting has focused me as a mum. I agree with TJ that while blogging is all consuming, it gives us ideas, wants and needs to be with our family, interact and create memories. On the flip side it does of course have its negatives. Continue Reading to see what TJ has to say on the subject of being an awesome Lego playing Dad.
This week on In Conversation With, I had the pleasure of speaking with the beautiful Julie from Fab Working Mom Life. Julie is a working Mom, a blogger and a mother of one. I know exactly the daily grind Julie goes through as I’m a full time working Momma Bear also. It can be very difficult to keep the house and home going and ensure you’re not neglecting yourself, your partner and most importantly your children. But some how we manage it, and sometimes we need help. Julie’s blog is fantastic and I feel like I can relate to a lot that she says. Keeping our identity in parenthood is so important. Read on to see what Julie has to say on being a working mom.