This week on In Conversation With, Heather joins us. Heather writes an aptly named blog Very Anxious Mommy. I think it’s safe to say that we all go through moments of anxiety as we try to figure out how to be the best parent we can be and also cope with the usual disasters life can throw at us. Heather, is mum to two beautiful children, an advocate for breastfeeding and a stay at home mum. She is also open and honest in her blog about battling anxiety and depression and is genuinely an inspiration to all of us. Remember to check out her blog and to follow her on social media.
How would your parents have described you?
I think my parents might have described me as sweet, anxious, and a bit sarcastic. I have always been a very stubborn and hardheaded person. One thing about me is that I always have to try something my way even if I will fail. That’s just how I learn.
What family tradition do you cherish the most?
This may sound silly but my most cherished tradition was going out for lunch with my grandmother when she was off work for the Christmas holiday. We used to go to little burger restaurants in our town and talk about how school was going and what we were going to be when we grew up. It was one thing in my life that has always been special.
Did you enjoy being pregnant?
Yes and No. When I got pregnant with my daughter five years ago I absolutely loved it. I had lots of attention and I felt so special carrying this little person inside me. I had no problems and felt beautiful the entire time.
Although, when I was pregnant with my son, I was constantly worried because I had just experienced a miscarriage a few months before.
What was the hardest part about being pregnant?
For me the hardest part about being pregnant is the waiting and constant discomfort. It seems to get more uncomfortable with each pregnancy. Between the back pain and the morning sickness pregnancy really wears me out.
What’s the one thing you would have done differently as a parent?
If I could do one thing differently I would have listened to my motherly instincts more and not worried about other people’s opinions. When I was a new mom I felt like I needed to do everything perfect so I asked lots of experienced moms how I should parent. I regret this so much and wishI had just learned my own way.
What is the one thing you never had that you want for your kids?
I want my kids to always have attentive parents that spend quality time with them. As a child, my parents were not around much and when they were they did not want to spend time with us. My parents have been very selfish at times. I want my kids to know how much they are loved and cared for. I want to give my kids a wonderful childhood to look back on.
What do you miss about your life before you had kids?
I miss sleep! When you have children you almost never get a full night’s sleep. Or at least I don’t anyways. I miss having time to take care of me and time in the bathroom ALONE. I miss spending ALONE time with my husband.
There are so many things that go out the door when you have small children. But I would not trade it.
What is the best thing about being a parent?
The best thing about being a parent is seeing my kids smiling faces and hearing them laugh. I love how my kids play together now and take care of one another. It reminds me that I am raising them right.
What advice would you give your younger self?
I would tell my younger self to relax and to just do whatever works in that moment. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect. Let the dishes sit in the sink and play with the kids. They will still be in the sink tomorrow but my children will only be little once.
You’re in the store with a full cart and your baby starts crying frantically…what do you do?
I actually have my kids crying a lot while I am grocery shopping. Whether it’s because we did not pick up the package of cookies that were requested or because one of them sat in the other’s spot. They will fight over anything! I usually just keep shopping until I get everything I need. Sometimes I can hand them my phone and that will buy me some time but if that doesn’t work they will be ok for a few moments.
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