I’ve come to the conclusion that parents shouldn’t date – or maybe it’s just me and B. We’re pretty disastrous when it comes to finding ourselves with a few child free hours but last Friday night pips the lot of them. Date Night? More like waste night as our car pulled back up to the house at 10:50pm and we swore next time would be better.
Finally, after almost a year, B and I went on a date! After last weeks post on Parenting Can Be Lonely, the timing of our date couldn’t be better. It’s so important to look after your relationship as well as the kiddies. Since time as a couple is now limited, every chance we get should really be jumped at but we’ll be the first to admit that we don’t take these golden opportunities. Luckily, for us, Star Trek: Beyond was just about to hit the cinema and as massive Trekkies, we pushed the parental guilt aside and scheduled the grandparents in for some much needed babysitting. Muchos Gracias! Our date was not without a few hiccups. We’re clearly quite rusty but it had its highlights too.
I’m not talking about when you bring a newborn home and the world suddenly seems very big and very scary. Or when the weight of responsibility for a beautiful helpless human lies heavy on your shoulders. You feel so alone because you think you don’t know what you’re doing (when really you do!) I don’t mean when the excitement of the first few weeks dies down and suddenly friends and family visit less and the house is quiet and looms large with its multitude of tasks. And I’m not talking about the loneliness that comes with being somewhat isolated on maternity leave when you wish after the old norm of the daily grind which included adult conversation and hot cups of tea with colleagues.